You love your partner, but it feels like you’re stuck in an endless loop of the same arguments. No matter how much you try to talk things out, you keep triggering each other, and before you know it, you're back in a heated fight. You may wonder: Why do we keep hurting each other when all we want is to feel close?

From my experience as a seasoned couple’s therapist, this frustrating cycle is common in relationships, but the good news is that it’s not a sign that your love is broken. Instead, this could be a sign that your emotional bond needs repair. This is where Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) intensives can be life-changing. Instead of spending months in weekly therapy sessions trying to make slow progress, an intensive allows you to dive deep into your relationship dynamics and create real change in just a few days.

Couples intensives aren’t the right fit for every relationship — but for the right couples, at the right moment, they can create meaningful movement. This post explores what a couples intensive actually is, who tends to benefit most, and how to know whether this format fits your relationship right now.